Dear Reader,
So if you're new here, welcome aboard.
And if you've been with me since last year… you probably noticed I disappeared for 3 months.
This has been the most difficult time I'm going through right now.
January Started With A Bang
I got a call from my house owner asking us to vacate our home of 10 years.
It triggered my rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) hard. The owners wanted the house back, which is fair - it's their house. But I had come to see it as mine because I was planning to buy it in a few years.
They needed to sell it right away, and I didn't have the money to buy it.
So we had to vacate.
Full Obsession Mode Activated
I went into complete hyperfocus on finding a new home. I must have seen 40-50 houses in just 2 weeks.
I finalized a home near our old one so my kids could use the same school van. But it was 75% smaller than my old home.
This new place is a duplex - we took 2 different houses just to fit everything.
The Chaos Multiplied
You wouldn't believe the amount of stuff I had accumulated in 10 years. The old home was actually one of the reasons I started Ancient Madurai - great walls, so much space to decorate.
When we put all the stuff in this new home? Overflowing. I couldn't find space, but I also couldn't let go.
And in all this chaos:
- My aunt died (we were very close)
- My mother-in-law fell and broke bones - had to be operated
- I developed severe back pain from lifting so much stuff
Now I'm on bed rest, dictating this into my phone.
The back pain became so severe I couldn't even sit and work for long hours.
ADHD + Change = Really, Really Hard
I didn't want to depress you with this email, but having ADHD and tackling change is very difficult.
Even now, I don't feel this as my home. There's this strong anxiety - this is also a rented home, they might ask us to vacate anytime.
My brain keeps screaming: "Buy your own home!"
But I seriously don't have the money.
For the last 3 months, I didn't take care of any of my businesses. Since I manage ads for all of them, they've been doing very badly too.
Everything is a mess now.
Why I'm Telling You This
People don't understand - we need to set up the home immediately, do everything immediately, go through our obsessions immediately.
And change? Change is very difficult for ADHD brains.
Maybe the only way forward is to start working again. So I thought I'd start doing that.
If you're going through something difficult right now, or if change has thrown you completely off track… I see you. I get it.
Sometimes the most we can do is just show up and try.
Cheers,
Hema
(Indian names can be tricky to pronounce 😅 — mine's "hay-maa" — simple as that!)
P.S - I have some courses I haven't even introduced to you yet. Maybe getting back to work is exactly what I need right now.
p.p.s - If you're the type of person who always scrolls to the bottom of emails and reads this type of stuff, we're probably kindred spirits. Thanks for sticking around despite all my mental detours.
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